If you know me even a smidge, you will know that I LOVE
reading. I cannot get enough of the process of discovering and learning new
things. About anything and everything. Always. And, quite often on these
reading expeditions, I “happen upon” the most profound of insights. Not always
pleasant, but always meaningful. This week’s rambling is a combination of where
those “nuggets” have taken me.
I was reading about the Foo Fighters – Dave Grohl
specifically – the other night, and I discovered the most interesting thing.
Even when he was “only” the drummer in Nirvana, he was already writing and
recording songs. Songs he never even thought to take to Kurt Cobain as
possibilities for the band, because Kurt Cobain was…well…Kurt Cobain – the icon
for a generation; the best thing since sliced bread…no, maybe even better; a
genius; the best voice writing exactly what everyone was thinking. Whether that
is true is something that can be debated, but the fact remains that Dave Grohl
was overawed enough that he did not pursue something he was passionate about.
But
then Kurt Cobain died tragically, and he was left with a choice: Do I remain a
drummer and just join another band (the most logical, certainly expected,
choice)? Or do I risk doing my own thing? He decided to take the risk, and the
rest is legendary history – even if you’re not a fan of the Foo Fighters. It was so strange – surreal, in fact – to think that all the
amazing songs, the anthems for life they have become for more than one
generation, might never have come to be had it not been for the tragedy those
many years ago. How strange life’s journey can be…how interesting the results
of unfortunate events…
And then I saw this on Twitter: “Sometimes you need to say
farewell to the company you keep in order to break free from the patterns
you're in.” Even when that company might be the most amazing company according to
you and to everyone around you, too. Because they might be the reason you are not
living up to your full potential – whether they realise it or not. Now,
sometimes you are spared the difficulty of having to make the hard choice to
let go. It might not feel like it at the time…or ever, for that matter…but
sometimes we are “forced” out of these relationships by conflict, rejection or
death. It is terrible and often sad, but still you are
“opened up” – your potential suddenly becomes something, has to become
something more. And then I realised something even more saddening – that we – I
– mostly wait until we are forced out of situations/relationships before we
take action. Even in those cases where we know the relationship is holding us
back.
“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive
yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the
situation is over, you cannot move forward.” - Steve Maraboli “Some people believe holding on and hanging in
there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much
more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” - Ann Landers
So let's start being thankful for those times that we didn't have to make the choice - even though it may have been painful experiences. And let's start showing true courage. We know the people and the relationships we need to move on from. Let's not wait any longer. That way we can recover and develop our true selves. And who knows what impact that might (will!) have on the world! "All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on." - Havelock Ellis
